This is the first blog in the series: Applied Metaphysics. While I'm not a fan of New Year's resolutions, I do find it helpful to get clear about what I'm creating in my life. This month, I will introduce my favourite tools for stepping into the New Year with awareness and clarity.
Asking the right questions
Wrong questions are dangerous. At worst, you can spend lifetimes trying to answer a bad question, such as: “What’s wrong with me?” Or: “How can I prove to myself that I’m worthy?”
Another question that I used to ask myself is: “What do I want to achieve this year?” That’s not really a dangerous question, but it is boring as hell.
These days, I ask better questions. Like:
Choice vs. goals
Once I’ve asked the right questions, I can make choices. Making a choice is different from setting a goal. Feel into the energy of ‘choice’ vs. ‘goal’.
‘Choice’ feels committed, clear, resolute.
‘Goal’ feels far away, like something that takes effort.
For example: “I choose to be fully here in life, with awareness, sensuality and an open heart.”
Done. It didn’t take any effort, just choice. Of course, I will need to keep making this choice every day until it becomes second nature to me.
Compassion vs. criticism
Contrary to popular opinion, we are much more likely to succeed at something when we are compassionate with ourselves. Most people believe that they will achieve more when they criticise and judge themselves, but this is a false belief.
This year has only just started, and already there were moments when I got impatient with myself. This is the moment to take a deep breath and be in compassion with all the parts of myself. “Okay, I got distracted for a moment there. How can I support myself and get back on track?”
Criticism drains you, compassion supports you.
Criticism weighs you down, whereas compassion allows you to expand.
Where do you place your focus?
Focus is like a magic wand, it directs energy.
For example, we can focus on the things we want, or the things we don’t want.
Feel into the difference between these two approaches:
Here we have two different energy dynamics. The first example has an energy dynamic of resistance, whereas the second one has an energy dynamic of desire and allowing. The first example sounds like you are focusing on what you want (i.e. to lose weight), but the underlying energy here is: “I see myself as too fat. I don't want that, but I'm focusing on it.”
If you feel the energy of the second example (i.e. I choose to feel light), you might notice how there is less resistance and gravity because your focus is directed towards your new choice.
If there is something you want to change in your life, focus on what you want, instead of what you don’t want. Focus has a magnetic and gravitational pull to it, so it’s important to be conscious about where you place your focus.
Lastly, you don’t need to know how things will manifest in your life. Your soul can see solutions and potentials that your human mind cannot see, and that’s why it’s important to trust in Self. For example, I have chosen to experience true love in this lifetime. This feels like a clear soul desire, so I know it will come to me. However, if I try to manage that as my human identity, I will only get in my own way. Instead, I can make a choice and then let it unfold in the way that soul arranges it for me. My energy will serve me when I’m clear about my choices, but only if I don’t get in my own way.
What are your favourite metaphysical skills and perspectives as you step into the New Year?