We all know love through our personal, lived experience. In fact, one might argue that you haven't fully lived on Earth until you've loved. But how would you describe love to someone who's never experienced it?
As we're entering the week of Valentine's Day, I'm inviting you to look at your definitions of love. For I believe that love – like everything else – goes new when we step into the embodiment of self-realization.
When scientists define love, they use words like: attraction, attachment, bonding, dependency... They talk about the neurochemicals that are released in the brain when we experience love. For example, oxytocin, the bonding hormone. But these neurochemicals don't create love; they are the physiological effect of the experience.
Adamus Saint-Germain describes love as an experience and a sense (a way of perceiving reality). He also defines love as the recognition of divinity within another person. Or within yourself, in the case of self-love. What a beautiful definition!
It has been said that self-love and self-realization are ultimately the same thing: There cannot be self-realization without self-love, just as there cannot be unconditional self-love without realizing your true divine nature.
I asked my soul how she defines love. Here is her description:
"Love is the experience of returning back home after feeling separated from your divinity or from parts of yourself. The 'I am' doesn't really know love because it doesn't know separation. Without experiencing separation, you cannot really experience what it feels like to integrate, unite and come back together with all the parts of yourself.
As a human, you experience love when someone sees God within you, and when you see God within them. In that recognition, you get a glimpse of 'home'. Once again you feel the connection, the warmth, the inner unity that you innately know from home, from your divine source.
Where humans usually trip up is that they mistakenly believe that this other person is home. The person with whom we have the experience of love becomes the source of love in our mind. In truth, no other person is the source of love or "the way home". They might be the inspiration or the reminder of how to return home. They cannot bring you back home because home is already within you. Whenever there is that dependency of believing that we need another person to feel home, we are susceptible to power games which muddles the experience of pure, clean love."
Realized love is the recognition of home within you.
One of the difficulties with defining love is that typical human love is often entangled in all kinds of things like karma, drama, ancestral influences, sexual attraction, energy feeding, and transactional agreements... Can we strip all these other dynamics away, and just have pure love? And if yes, how does it differ from 'regular love'?
While I understand what pure love is from a theoretical standpoint, I have so many questions still unanswered:
Is it something that can be chosen, or only allowed? Is true, realized love the natural consequence of self-realization, or a pathway to embodying more of your true self? And if realized love means unconditional acceptance, as some have suggested, what does that mean in practical terms? For example, what is the difference between accepting someone unconditionally and tolerating imbalanced or even abusive behaviour?
Of course, the best answers come through experience, and I can't wait to discover and explore this new kind of love. I also have a strong intuition that when two realized beings come together in love, a new kind of magic is born.
If you ever feel disconnected from your soul, my recommendation is to tune into your heart: The physical heart is soul's reminder of the eternal source of light within you. Then, look at yourself through the eyes of unconditional acceptance. Love is indeed an angelic sense; since perception shapes reality, perceiving through the sense of love will shape your reality into a more loving one.